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Responding with genuine interest and enthusiasm when good things
happen to the people around us does wonders for our connections
with others - and it does us good too!
Confiding in each other is an important feature of close relationships. Sharing our thoughts and feelings about things that happen to us is an important part of this.
Psychologists have recently discovered that how we respond to people when they share good news about the things that happen to them can be even more important for our relationships than how we react when things go wrong for them. Equally, how our partner, friend or family member responds to our good news helps us feel understood and cared for.
When we respond to good news with interest and enthusiasm - by asking questions and helping our partner re-live the experience - they will feel more intimacy and trust, be more satisfied with the relationship and be more likely to engaged in fun and relaxing activities.
Studies have also shown that couples who felt their partners were responsive in this way, experienced fewer break-ups over time.
Step 1: Think
When your partner or a close friend tells you about something good that happened to them how do you normally respond? (If you're not sure why not ask them!). Do you:
Answer 4 is known as 'active-constructive' responding and has the most positive impact on our relationships. It is 'active' as we are asking about the event and 'constructive' as it focuses on what went well.
Step 2: Act
Next time someone shares their good news - whether big or small - try responding actively and constructively. Be genuinely enthusiastic and show interest by asking a couple of questions. Here are some examples you could try:
 Gable, S. L., Gonzaga, G., & Strachman, A. (2006). Will you be there for me when things go right? Supportive responses to positive event disclosures. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 91, 904-917.
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